Location: Hong Kong
Subject: The Most Dangerous Trap for Young Men.
You don’t have time.
That’s the biggest bullshit story ever told and people buy into it because it makes them feel nice - it gives them an out from the misery of the life that is far less than what they ever wanted.
The greatest lie that young men are told is that they have time. Because suddenly you’re 27 years old and don’t have so much time. You’re fat, broke and stuck in a life that you never wanted.
Suddenly you don’t have time.
You’re sitting in a fluorescent room listening to people that you don’t want to be around.
Driving a car you don’t like and living in a body you hate.
Eating slop out of a cardboard box for lunch and staring into the distance wondering what happened to the life you thought you’d have.
Was it you? Was it the world? Was it just not mean’t to be? What happened?
As a young man from the ages of 18 to about 23, I thought everything was going to work out just dandy and that I was destined for something great. This gave me a powerful fuel to keep trying new things and to never give up, but nothing changed until I MADE a serious change.
Moved across the country and became a deep sea diver. Learned some real shit. Did some real shit. Worked with real men. Became a real man.
The truth is that tomorrow never comes. It’s a mirage of the mind and only gets further away the closer you think you get. You just pass through life and stay the same person you are now, but you age and your body decays. Your energy decreases. Your self belief decreases. You become more risk averse.
You start to get depressed about going nowhere, you start to ask yourself more and more - what is going on?
The decade of your 20’s is the most important decade of your life, and how you spend them sets up the years to come. I have always firmly believed this and instead of being out partying or doing stupid shit..I studied, worked, trained and gave MYSELF the time I needed to figure out what I wanted to do.
Now at 26 my life is a life that most people my age and even older could not imagine if they tried because they have no idea it’s possible. In fact I don’t tell most people anything about it because they don’t need to know. I could not work for the next 2 years and I’d be fine. I live in the jungle on a tropical island. Jacked and in supreme physical condition. Bank accounts around the world.
But I WORKED for it all instead of wasting my time fucking around in life. That’s why I hit it earlier, just passed my mid 20’s.
If you sit around jerking yourself off all day pursuing comfort and ease over difficulty and growth, you will pay the price in years to come. Lack of strength. Lack of character. Lack of skill. You have to suffer in one form or another. So if you don’t embrace the pain of doing worthwhile things you will be forced to endure the pain of being a nobody. You will be invisible.
What you don’t realise is that every day the clock is ticking. Just watch it for a moment. Every time that hand ticks you’re getting closer to the end of the road and there isn’t a fucking thing you can do about it.
Do you understand?
You’ll be 18 years old and feel like you have the world at your feet, because you do. The world IS your oyster as they all say. Life is one huge possibility.
You’ve got tonnes of the two most precious assets a man can have - time and energy.
Then you’re 24 years old and not much has changed. You’re a little more jaded from the game and not as ballsy as that 18 year old kid anymore.
Suddenly you’re 26 years old and 30 is only just around the corner. You have debts now, obligations, your freedom has been eaten up. Your energy is lower and so is your drive.
But you still haven’t got the life you want?
So you’re asking questions and looking for answers. Laying awake at night wondering what the fuck. Where’d you go wrong? Why haven’t you got what you wanted? Why didn’t mummy and daddy’s advice work?
The truth is you’ll never get anywhere if you listen to most people.
They’re diluted like watered down cordial and their advice is dog shit. Ain’t ever done a thing except ring the bell to check in at hell. I’ve been there. You’re there. Let me help you get out, just listen now.
You can’t do what everyone else does and expect to get a different result. That’s insanity. Einstein said it. The fuck you expect to happen if you just do what they all do, and run on the treadmill year after year?
I did that.
I did that for years and wondered why I was never where I wanted to be.
Nothing changed for me until I lost everything and was forced to do something different, think outside the box. Learn real skills and figure out how to get what I wanted. I’m a master of reinvention and imagination. I become what I think about like a magician makes a pigeon pop outta his mother fucking hat.
“Don’t stress. You’ve got all the time in world. Chill. Just relax. Enjoy.”
Said every useless cunt on the face of the earth.
I want you to take a hard look at the people who give you this advice.
Do they look like you wanna look and have the life you wanna have? Do they wake up when they want and do what they want? Are they free? Are they fulfilled? Do they like what they do?
Probably not.
They probably take orders from some slob in a suit and live in fear of losing the little that they have because they can’t find the balls to go after anything more. They’re comfortable. They’re complacent. They’re empty vessels.
Let me tell you something; if you think it sucks taking orders and being pissed on at the age of 21, try stomaching that kind of life in your late 20’s and early 30’s. When all of your dreams and the things you wanted to do are still just ideas. Images plastered to the wallpaper of your mind while you listen to a presentation on the new sexual harassment policy coming in next week, where if you so much as even LOOK at Sarah - you’re fired buddy.
You don’t want to end up there. I don’t want you to end up there. It’s the worst pain any man can experience to be sitting there sick to his stomach wondering why he never did what he really wanted to do. Zoned out. There but not there. Seeing people talk and not hearing a word because all you can do is ask yourself over and over in your mind, where you went wrong.
THAT will kill you faster than anything else in this world. Untapped potential.
So to you reading this. Young man. Do yourself a favour and realise now that you do NOT have time. That’s the biggest load of shit. You have the opportunity to experiment, fail, make mistakes and figure out what you want your life to be about. BUT you do not have time to arse around and waste your best years doing bullshit.
You don’t have time to spend 8 hours a day playing video games.
You don’t have time to watch movies all weekend.
You don’t have time to get comfortable.
You DON’T have time.
Because every single day the clock is ticking and suddenly you will be approaching 30 with nothing to show for the highest testosterone and highest energy years of your life.
So invest your 20’s into;
Lifting.
Studying.
Networking.
Learning valuable skills.
Eating the right foods.
Taking care of your health.
Understanding how the world works.
If you do this and you do it right then you will have a massive advantage moving into later years, because you are leveraging the magic of compound interest.
Negative momentum is not something you want to be fighting because you probably won’t win.
POV.
Guy spends his best years as a young man partying, drinking and doing nothing to add any value to himself that can be used to get what he wants later in life. Sales skills. Character. Network. Cash in the bank. He has none of it. Then he wakes up at 30 and he is a nobody with a dick limp like a 3 day dead shrimp.
The good news is that even then, as a man, you still have time to make a change.
But why would you wait?
Because you think you have time, that’s why.
You don’t.
Make the most of your best years and use them to set up the rest of your life while you have the energy, the time and the testosterone to enforce your will on the world.
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