Location: Jungle Penthouse, Bali.
Subject: The Secret to Finding a Direction in Life
Lads,
There will be times in your life where it’s just you. Staring down the barrel of the gun and into the belly of the beast. Shivering in the cold. Walking in the rain. Alone on what seems like an island 1000 miles from anyone or anything.
Nobody will be around to tell you the answers, and you will have to figure it out on your own. You will need to shut out the world and listen to yourself. You’ll have to confront the fact of life that it’s only ever you and you alone that controls the direction of your ship.
You’ll need to take a stand and back yourself..maybe for the first time.
It’s a lot harder than it sounds which I understand. Listening to your own instinct and trusting yourself. Because the world around you is constantly pushing it’s agenda on you. Telling you what to think, how to think, what to feel, how to live your life. Most men go with the flow like that and end up with whatever they end up getting.
“That’s just how it is.”
“Ah well, someday.”
We’ve all heard it.
Few ever roll the dice for real. Few have the balls to back themselves. Few put it all on the line for something better.
That’s just the way it goes, and not everyone wants more than they have. Some are happy. At least they tell themselves they are. Only YOU will know if you’re set with what you’ve got or if you just don’t believe you can have more. It’s a personal matter.
Planet Earth is indifferent to who you are and what you want from life. You’re nothing more than a parasite to her. A grain of sand on the beach. A piece of dust. The people around you are concerned with their own life. They might say hello. You might interact with them. But they just pass on by and keep living their life. You occupy three seconds in their mind unless you do or say something memorable. Then they just move on. With their life. You are one of one million faces in the sea of their memory.
You don’t matter to them.
You don’t matter to anyone, except maybe a few people if you’re lucky.
If you are not careful as you go through life, you will end up with a life that is far from what you actually wanted.
If you don’t grab your nuts and realise it’s all on you to make something of yourself, then you’ll learn the hard way about how the world treats poor, weak and useless men.
It’s cruel to them. It has no mercy. It will eat you alive and tear your flesh from the bone in bite sized chunks until you’re nothing but a broken soul of a man soaking in the rain.
The Godfather said it best:
“Women and children can afford to be careless, but not men…”
So I write for the lost souls and the men who have a chance still. The ones who know they’ve got more in them. The ones where the fire isn’t out completely, not yet at least. I’ve been there and I’ve looked deep into the eyes of men defeated. I know how dark life can get. Even if it all seems fine on the outside, I know how deeply a man can be tormented by his own mind. How strong the demons of his past can be. How low they can take you into the depths of your own personal hell.
Most of you are not happy with your life and you know that.
Some of you will do something about that and try to change it.
A few of you will get what you want because you refused to settle.
For most of you though, you will stay stuck. No money. No idea who you are or what you want out of life. No energy or drive to change any of it. Because the negative momentum is too strong, because you waited for too long.
You will go to the grave with everything you could have been still just a vague idea in the back of your mind. A sentence in an old journal lost to time. Like the millions of men before you who never acted on what they wanted and just fucking waited for the day that never came.
I’ve seen this happen. Not everyone wins at life. They fuck around during their best years thinking they have all the time in the world. They never get what they want because they make bad decisions or they just give up early and settle for less.
It takes balls of steel to trust yourself. It’s not easy. The world is more complicated than ever before and things are constantly changing.
All you really have is yourself.
The man in the mirror.
Learning how to trust what he thinks and tap into your gut instinct is a life skill that will come with time. For most of us we constantly seek validation and reassurance from other people, because we don’t trust our own ability to get what we want in life or to make hard decisions on our own.
“What do you think of this?”
“Is this the right move?”
“What should I do”?
There’s a time and a place to ask for advice. It’s a good thing. It’s normal and healthy. But you need to understand that nobody has all the answers and nobody knows exactly what you should do. Nobody is sitting around pondering what is best for you. Like I said before, you are just a face in the sea of their mind. You don’t matter to 99% of people on earth until you MAKE yourself matter.
People can’t live your life for you.
You are scared to make your own decisions.
You don’t think you can handle failure if it happens.
You don’t want to make mistakes.
But you will, and you can’t avoid mistakes. You shouldn’t try to avoid mistakes. That’s where the juice is and it’s where you will learn the best lessons. When you are sitting alone in a room wondering how you will get out of a situation. When you’ve lost everything and don’t understand why life is such a cunt. Those are the moments that count. That’s when you earn your stripes.
Gut. Instinct.
They don’t teach you about it in school because that’s not what school is for. If they taught you about things like this, you wouldn’t be reading this letter. You would have what you want in life and you wouldn’t be lost. But instead they teach you that you can’t trust yourself. You must listen to authorities instead. They know what is best for you, they know the answers. You just need to do what you are told.
Slave programming.
It’s the reason you can’t think for yourself.
You have been trained out of doing what is best for you.
You have been taught to do the opposite of what you should do.
You have been programmed to default to obedience and lazy thinking.
It’s why your life is shit; the quality of your thinking and your level of mastery of yourself is what determines where you will go and what you will do. Cause and effect. You control everything in your life, but you refuse to accept that power and you blame ghosts in the darkness for your misfortune.
To sit down with a pen and paper and to ask your own gut what you should do, and to genuinely listen to what you hear back from it, and to action that deep knowledge that bubbles up from within your own soul, and to have absolute faith that what you are hearing from within is the right answer.
That is Power.
Do you understand?
Everything good I ever got in my life. Every piece of success. Everything I have now. It all come from trusting my gut. From not listening to other people and instead doing what I knew was the right thing for me. Even if it seemed completely insane, and made no sense to anyone else. If it felt right and if I had faith, it always worked out in my favour. Sometimes I would sit on a decision for days or weeks. I would write about it endlessly. I would put it off and put it off until I KNEW what to do. Then I would decide and execute with devastating force and get exactly what I wanted.
You can’t teach this. It must come from life experience. There is a certain state of mind and feeling when you know you are lined up. A sense of excitement and happiness will stir within you. If it’s the right thing for you to do, you will know within. Even if logically it makes no sense. The gut will tell you the answer. I promise. There is an intelligence within your cells greater than anything you’ve ever known. But you must believe first, or else it will never work. You must be able to take a leap of faith.
Whenever I ignored that inner voice and got stuck in my head or listened to other people and did the opposite of what I wanted. I ended up getting something I did not want. I made the wrong decision and I suffered for it, and deep down I knew I should have listened to myself. The outcome was never what I wanted. It was always some bullshit that didn’t work out. That’s life for most people. A constant nightmare.
The day I learned what it mean’t to trust myself was the day everything changed for me. It was like life aligned and instead of swimming against an unstoppable current, I simply turned my boat around and was carried along almost effortlessly. That is the best way I can describe life when lived in accordance with your own nature.
You go with the current instead of against it.
Why does it take people years to realise this, and why do most people never realise it at all?
Because they are distracted.
By the endless amount of distractions available to us in the modern world that allow you to numb the mind to reality. I’ve used them myself, but the problem is you must always come back to a life that is not what you want it to be. You always wake up to the same thing, and you always wonder what else might be possible. You suffer because you refuse to see what is.
Distraction is the #1 enemy of hearing your own inner voice and seeing reality.
Television. Porn. Video games. Other people. All the ideas and opinions inside your mind that bounce around incessantly. Problems in your life. Noise. Too much pleasure. Thinking you need to be like someone you look up to.
It all gets in the way of you being able to tune in to your own heart.
So how do you fix this?
You remove it all one piece at a time until nothing is left.
You clear away everything that is clouding your mind and your life.
You allow yourself to be genuinely alone and with the pain you have been avoiding.
You sit down and you listen for the first time in your life.
Then you do the thing you know you need to do no matter how scary it might seem.
That is the secret to getting everything you’ve ever wanted in life and becoming who you have the potential to be.
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Until next time.
~ Maverick Brenton
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