From The Desk of Maverick Brenton.
Subject; Five Lessons Life Has Taught Me.
A few weeks ago I turned 25 years old.
In my short life I have lived the lives of ten average men and made the mistakes of twenty; I’ve been an Entrepreneur, Deep Sea Diver, Salmon Farmer, Novelist, Bartender, Fighter, Construction Worker, Digital Nomad, WoodFired Pizza Chef, Winner, and Loser.
I’ve felt the warmth of many women, watched the sunrise on the most beautiful beaches, succeeded and failed. I’ve lived a life worth writing about, got a story worth telling, and I ain’t slowing down anytime soon boys.
Through it all both the thick and the thin; life has slapped me in the face with a number important lessons, and a select few are the subject of today’s article. While there are many more, and while I’d love to share them - I’ve chosen the most notable to keep this concise.
Enjoy.
1 - Life is a War.
Anyone who tells you that life is all sunshine, rainbows and everything works out fine is either delusional or full of shit.
Life is a War.
It is a war until you the day you die; against enemies, against weakness, against distractions, against a world that wants you to submit to the machine mind of society.
Life is by nature a competitive and harsh experience. This is a fact that 99.9% of people can never accept. Most of us just go through our lives repeating self-help euphemisms while continually getting fucked by circumstance and refusing to face reality.
“Everything happens for a reason!”
“It’s all gonna work out fine!”
If you wish to see the true brutality of life unhindered by your own subjective beliefs, then I would recommend to objectively study nature. Observe how dogs will fight to the death over a female. Watch an army of ants rip apart a live insect as it struggles desperately. Watch a shark rip apart some helpless person in the ocean. Read about the horrors of the World Wars. Consider that this is true the essence of life; struggle, suffering, competition. You are simply insulated from much of this through the modern comforts you think are normal.
The absolute truth of life is that if we are lucky enough then we get exactly what we deserve; very little worth having & keeping EVER comes easily. Most people don’t have what they desire because who they are as a human in relation to the world around them, does not deserve it.
Life has taught me that to successfully progress in this world - you must grow fangs, you must be strong, you must fight like a motherfucker to attain and keep what you value the most.
Don’t go through this game “hoping” for anything because hope is not a winning strategy.
Go through it with steel in your eyes, might in your fists and be prepared to fight for whatever it is you want because you WILL encounter situations, people and circumstances that want to absolutely crush you for no valid reason.
The world is harsh. Competitive. Brutal. Ruthless.
You must be worse.
2 - Knowing The Right People Will Transform Your Life.
Fools think they don’t need anyone to win at life, but nothing could be further from the truth.
To become and do anything worthwhile in this world you need to know people and you need to have the RESPECT of the right people.
Being a Lone Wolf is a misunderstood concept that people think about in the wrong way. There’s nothing wrong with enjoying solitude and being alone. This is fundamental in the process of knowing yourself as a man; but you cannot be disconnected from the world, and belong to nothing IF you want to maximise your life.
You are not Mushashi travelling Japan writing poetry and slaughtering cunts with his Katana; you need a fucking team.
Finding and building relationships with other Men who are successful and well connected will do more for your reality than ANYTHING else ever will because it is how your mind has evolved to operate. You need to be exposed to not only different aspects of the human reality, but higher levels of the human reality where people are doing what you consider unattainable. Seeing this will alter your mind, and if you spend enough time with them - it will begin to alter your life.
Humans are designed to operate in networks and since the dawn of time the most powerful men have always operated in networks exclusive to those outside said networks. Gangs, tribes, brotherhoods - this is the way of Men and it always has been.
Why?
Because it works.
When you pool men together a natural hierarchy will form and all men assume their place on the basis of skill, age, wisdom, and competency. Supposing it is allowed to be this way and not artificially restricted by some upside down corporate fuck show with Beta bitch tits men in positions of power, this hierarchy forms as naturally as you breathing air. Then the various skillsets, levels of competency and experience all compliment each other - because this is Nature.
You don’t need to know everything and you don’t need to know everyone. But you do need to know the right people with the right information who also have the right connections if you ever want to make anything worthwhile happen.
As a Man your true value comes from your accomplishments, your life competence, your resources and who you know. It does not come from your kindness, your personality, your looks, your childhood, your muscles, or your “positive traits”.
None of this shit means a fucking thing in the real world and nobody really cares about any of it.
Being “nice” is almost always a cope for lack of more important and essential traits as a man.
Put down the fucking self-help books and; get money, become somebody, build your circle, make yourself dangerous.
3 - Success Does Not Care Where You Came From.
In the movie Public Enemy there’s a great scene where Johnny and his girl are sitting in a fancy restaurant. The other women in the restaurant are shooting his girl snobby looks because she is wearing a cheap dress. Turning their nose up. Exactly what anyone who started with money will do.
So she turns to Johnny, and says;
“They aren’t used to seeing a girl in their restaurant wearing a $3 dress..”
Johnny looks over and tells her;
“That’s cos they’re all about where people are from. Let me tell you something; it don’t matter where you’re from, all that matters is where you’re going.”
She blushes, looks down at the table and smiles. Her hair is jet black, lips are bright red. A feminine beauty enchanted by his mystique. Then she answers back..
“So where are you going Johnny?”
He responds without a moment to pause..
“Anywhere I wanna go..”
Those lines have remained with me for many years; where you come from don’t mean shit, what really matters is where you are going - and you can go anywhere you choose to go my friend if you REALLY want to.
No matter where you started, what you’ve been through, the decisions you have made, or how much you may have suffered in this life; the future will always be a blank piece of paper where anything can go, and so long as you’re breathing you can make something happen.
People born into wealth don’t understand this and they never will because starting halfway up the mountain insulates you from the pain and suffering below. But that pain and suffering is what forges great character and the qualities required to be a good man. Goodness is at the core strength of heart and character - spoilt cunts lack this, and I have seen it many times. What somebody else appreciates deeply, they look upon as an entitlement.
The MOST Powerful and Esteemed men I have personally had the pleasure of learning from started in the gutter; single mother households, homelessness, and poverty. They suffered through tremendous difficulties and emerged on the other side as mighty kings worthy of their throne. Some don’t make it, and that’s the reality of Life. But those who do are often powerful individuals that others are drawn to, and rightfully so.
It has and always will be my opinion that starting in the gutter is a blessing, and massive achievement is savoured so much more when you have been starved of it for the majority of your human experience.
Weak men who came up easy and were never forced to struggle are often the most dangerous, the most destructive, and the most parasitic leeches I have ever known. They are not dangerous because they possess elite fighting skills, or are more competent at life than other men; they are dangerous because the inherently evil nature of human beings which exists inside them has nothing to keep it in check. An intolerance for pain and their non-existent backbone will have them throw you under the bus, and do otherwise terrible things to preserve their own pleasurable experience of life. They refuse to suffer.
So avoid men of weak character if you can. Embrace the difficulty of life. Remember that it doesn’t matter where you come from, all that matters is where you are going.
4 - Sales Can Make You RICH
Towards the end of last year I was badly injured and lost my career as a Commercial Diver because of it; ending up back at home, one hand completely fucked, and sleeping on my mums floor with no backup plan.
Since then I have made more money in one hour than I used to make spending ten hours a day on some worksite, busting my ass and wearing down my body. I’ve watched my bank account explode past what I thought was even possible in a short period of time. I’ve made more than what most people earn each week, by writing an email with three paragraphs to one person.
It was the single greatest comeback and biggest turnaround I have ever experienced in my life…and I absolutely did not expect it.
How did this happen?
By learning how to stand in the path of flowing money and reaching out to grab it - which is a fancy way of explaining sales.
Sales is by far the most valuable and ESSENTIAL skill when it comes to doing business and making money in this world; it is the ability to convince someone with money, to give you their money for something in exchange. It is assisting in the decision making of a purchase, and the movement of the money (stored energy) - in return for a % of the total sum of the transaction. The bigger the transaction and the bigger your influence on that transaction, the bigger your %.
Stack multiple transactions consisting of 6-7 figures alongside each other through hard work and leveraging your time; and suddenly you are making the average person’s annual salary each month (or week).
Then position yourself in the right industry, at the right time, and be the best at what you are doing - you will soon become rich. For this reason and many others, sales is an absolute game changer and the best skill any young man can learn if he wants to understand the dynamics of getting motherfucker wealthy at a young age.
You don’t need to destroy your body or spend hours busting your ass to earn a living, which is fucking retarded unless you really want to do that. You don’t need to dump high five to six figures into a degree, and years of your time. You don’t need to be a slave at McDonalds serving some fat cunt his triple whopper with extra maple syrup and fries.
All you need to do is learn the skillset, the techniques, the mindsets, and the underlying principles of sales to be successful at it.
You control your time. You are absolutely responsible for your success. You can either win or fail.
As a salesman; it is all on you - which is exactly how it should be.
Last night I was on a call with a friend who made $750,000 in the last 12 months by helping people buy things in the IT industry. Three quarters of a million dollars for talking to people and helping them buy something.
I have personally tripled my net-worth in the last six months by learning and applying these skills.
Sales is the ONLY job in the corporate world where if you are a top producer, you can literally walk around with your sack out wearing a cowboy hat and still be employed the next day.
As a young man, my best advice is to learn and master sales because it is a LIFE skill that will make you better at anything that involves people…which is basically everything.
5 - Quantifiable Growth as a Man is Painful.
What you need to understand is that most personal development does not genuinely change you on a psychological level; waking up early, taking cold showers, reading books, lifting weights. While all are excellent things to do that will absolutely improve your mental & physical health - these things will not TRULY change you as a man.
Only substantial pain and discomfort that physically impacts you will ever do anything notable for the development of your character.
Laying awake in a dark prison cell staring at a concrete ceiling. Having your heart shattered. Losing everything and sleeping on a floor for months. Fighting for your life against another man in bare knuckle combat. Having someone you love, fuck you over. Being humiliated and shit on. Holding a blade to your wrist and contemplating suicide. Experiencing so much pain that you submit to a new understanding of life.
Those with the most impressive characters and the most enviable lives did not get there through some secret morning routine that only billionaires know about; often what YOU see is the outcome of more pain and endurance than most people are willing to tolerate.
Too many boys never become MEN because their life lacks the pain, the adventure and the adversity to make them into men of true character; video games, working some non-demanding job, going out on the weekends, fucking around with their girlfriend - none of this does anything to sharpen you or forge a warrior spirit, yet it is the stock standard life of most young men?
The majority of men go from their mother’s arms, to a girlfriend’s arms, and then into a wife’s arms; so never coming to learn the meaning of self-reliance or independence. Never gaining the ability to simply climb the mountain without needing a woman. Always wondering where “she” is. Stuck in a fucking fairytale and absent of the courage that it takes to build their own life into a masterpiece.
Most males of the modern world do not know how to go without a warm vagina and the attention of a female. If they don’t currently have one, all they can think about is finding one - and existing as a man of independence whose inner state is unaffected by circumstance is not on their list of objectives.
Why did the Spartans send their boys into the wild?
Why has male initiation been so foundational since the dawn of time until now?
It is because Women are born, but men are made; through enduring Life and learning how to establish competence in the world.
You should therefore seek painful growth and quantifiable development as a man over comfort - leave home, become a fighter, fail at life, get fucked over, go hungry, be cold, earn your eyes, and forge your armour.
One of the more emotionally difficult things I did earlier in my life (because I had one-itis) was leave a perfectly good girl who I genuinely loved, to bet EVERYTHING on myself and become a Commercial Diver.
I left regular sex with a banging hot 18 year old who let me do whatever I wanted with her - to go live in freezing cold mountains, to get lowered to the dark depths of an icy mountain lake, to dive with crocodiles, to work in underwater currents so extreme I needed to tie myself onto something to hold on, to drive boats in weather so gnarly I almost sank, to get covered in fish guts and snow as I worked alongside MEN on the back of rough fishing boats, to literally live in the wild - washing in frozen creeks and eating fish - and to finally discover a part of me that has been with me ever since.
Up there on those cold mountains, down there on the bottom of that dark lake, out there on the back of those fishing boats, and deep in the wild that I called my home..
I finally became a man and this power filled my heart which has been with me ever since.
It was my own Spartan Agoge. My own intitiation. My own rite of passage.
When I left that young woman I missed her; but the wild embraced me in it’s own way, and it made me wild in my own way - and I fucked plenty of other girls which made me forget all about the other one.
The experience put steel in my eyes, strength in my heart, and power in my soul unlike anything else ever could.
It gave me a certain type of strength you’ll never get from any book or course;
Strength of Character.
~ Maverick Brenton
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